Trudy Hensley
aka Trudy Headley, nee Morgan
Do you know Trudy? Do you know how to contact her?
Edited 3/6/09 - Deleted some references and revised my thoughts on ever talking to Trudy again.
Trudy is my ex-wife. She is Stephanie's mother. She has regular communication with Stephanie according to my sources. Trudy has not spoken to her son, Stephanie's brother, for at least three years. Her son (and mine) escaped from Scientology and I helped. Soon after, his wife followed and I helped. Several months after they left Scientology, my daughter-in-law and I attended the wedding of Trudy's youngest brother (my son was out of town on business). At a get-together at the family farm the day after the wedding, Trudy informed me she could not speak to my daughter-in-law or our son because they were declared SP by Scientology. She did not say she couldn't talk to me, but I told her I found that notion disgusting and I didn't want to talk to her as long as she felt that way. I collected my daughter-in-law and left. I later found out her family was none too happy with her for her statements.
I know where Trudy lives, even where she works. She accidently called me once, but quickly hung up. I'm fairly sure I have also been declared, but neither Trudy nor Stephanie has actually told me they can't speak to me. I just know they don't!
Trudy was in the Sea Org until she was offloaded after 6 or 7 years on the RPF. She has been mistreated beyond belief by Scientology, yet she persists in following their inane practices. Trudy was at one time a very intelligent, caring person who put her children above all else. In addition to our son, she has another son with from a subsequent relationship. I know she hasn't kept what you might call a motherly connection with him. The last time I saw him and spoke with him he bristled at the mention of Trudy. Not a good sign.
I previously stated I don't particularly care if I ever talk to Trudy again for my sake, but would like her to know she is hurting Stephanie by reinforcing the disconnection. My feelings have changed a bit on that because it doesn't feel right to be an exclusive grandparent! Trudy was, is, and always will be the mother of my children and the true grandmother of our grandchildren. It would be nice to be able to share the joys of the newest generation of Headleys with her. I also think she is hurting herself by not speaking with our son. She has never seen her grandsons. She has missed moments that only happen once - her grandson's first three years. Second grandson born 2/27/08! She has missed the first birthday of a second grandson. She is only depriving herself of the joys of life. Too sad.
Trudy, if you happen to see this, tell Stephanie I miss her. You might want to look seriously at your own situation as well. Is this what you really want? Did you at some point decide your children weren't as important as you previously thought? Does posting mindless dribble for CCHR satisfy your life goals? Doesn't it bother you that the head of your beloved church stated in front of your son that "the dumb blonde on the RPF in Florida deserves to be there is she was so stupid to be on it for so long in the first place"? Doesn't it seem strange you were offloaded right after your son left? He had been protecting you. Doesn't it seem strange that Stephanie was also offloaded shortly thereafter? Did you know she was forced to divorce her first husband? Did you know he got remarried the day after their divorce was final? Don't you find it sad that your own brother asked me what to say to get you off his back with your constant dissemination? Doesn't it bother you to know you have broken your mother's heart? Does having a cold shut-off valve on your emotions make life better? Wouldn't you like to know your grandchildren? (I can guarantee you will not be allowed to have contact if you even mention Scientology around them!) How do you resolve these things? How do you sleep at night? How do you forgive yourself? Do you want the same misery for Stephanie? She may not feel it now. She may not feel it tomorrow. She will eventually feel it and resent you! I will always be here for her. I will always love her (and even you for that matter). You have thrown away about 30 years so far. It doesn't mean you can't have the next 30. At the very least let your daughter get her life back. Tell her what I have said. Tell her to call me. Tell her a real life awaits.
Love ya,
Bernie
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